Wednesday, April 23, 2008

My BFOF

Happy Birthday, Kori!!

Kori and I became friends through an online panel, and immediately clicked. Fellow single mothers, fellow liberals, both of us extremely outspoken :), we definitely bonded from the getgo.

We've never met IRL, but the thoughts and feelings we've shared with each other has been a life-saver for me. I have some great friends and family, of course, but Kori understands my day-to-day better than anyone because it's similar to her own.

One big difference, however: she's got 4 children. Now, when I'm ready to pull my hair out with my two, I think about her and know that she's had similar moments, and I think "how does she do it?" She's also had her heart broken and been put through a lot ever since childhood and straight on through. And yet, she remains a well-balanced person that can give her children hope for their futures, she keeps her sense of humor and cracks me up, and she remains true to herself.

We have this little joke about our need for validation. And we give it to each other. She gave me permission to fall apart yesterday when I needed to. She gave me permission to go ahead and plan our mini-vacation to Disneyland, even when I was worried about the cost. She gives me the reassurance that I need when I'm doubting my abilities to get through whatever dilemma is currently beating the crap out of me. And, yes, she has given me some oh-so-needed kicks in the rear, and when I fought her on it, she just waited patiently for me to see the light :)

She's so completely open and honest about who she is. She is so incredibly intelligent, and admirable in very many ways.

Happy Birthday, Kori. I'm so glad I've met you, and can count you among my friends.

8 comments:

Kori said...

I am so honored and touched by this post, April. You mean so much to me as well, and I don't know how I got through all my piles of shit before I had you to bounce things off of. What an absolutely powerful feeling to have someone like you who says, "I GET that, I really do!" and I can trust that you mean it. Again, thank you. You can't see it, but I actually have a tear or two in my eye-god, I am such a baby! : )

cablegirl said...

Oh, is the birthday something she's hiding or did I miss the post? Beter go run over there now and send the proper wishes. :)

There is nothing quite like the power of a strong, supportive and fulfilling friendship, no matter how it's discovered.

The Immoral Matriarch said...

She is great, isn't she?

Tara R. said...

It's wonderful to have friends like that. Congrats to you and Happy B-Day to Kori.

OHmommy said...

Friends like that are awesome.
HAPPY BDAY Kori!!!!

hugabug1 said...

I've said it before and I'll say in again.... You and Kori both are great examples to those of us who know nothing about being single mothers. You have both taught me so much about strength through adversity and I can't thank you enough.

Blessings From Above said...

Awww...very sweet post!

LunaNik said...

Oh shit...mental note: must go say Happy BDay to Kori.