Sunday, April 5, 2009

Weekend Wrap-Up

I know that I'm feeling much better because I like coffee again - phew! I faked it for two days because I was so over being sick, but on Friday, I finally desired coffee like I normally do. And the world stopped being upside down.

There are some developments on the X front, but I'm not yet ready to talk about that. Thankfully, Kori and Nancy were there for me yesterday when I really needed to cry and rant and rave, and also thankfully, my girls were spending the day with their grandparents. I'm setting up another therapy appointment to help me through this.

It's not that I don't know my options, and the various pitfalls associated with any decision I make, but Kori and I agreed that I should take advantage of the opportunity I have to mull this over with a professional who knows me, knows my kids, and will help me come up with solutions to the pitfalls. I'll be able to make the decision with more confidence than if I flew completely solo on this, which will probably be half the battle.

We single moms are constantly just having to deal with the problems, and we - well, I guess I can't speak for all single moms - I often second-guess myself and wonder if I should've gone the other way on a decision. It's what separates truly single parents from those that can co-parent with their ex, or those that have a husband somewhere in the world. And it's why I need people like Kori in my life. She gets it, she gets me, and I cherish her friendship in a way that I was never able to cherish my marriage.

On lighter notes, the girls ran a race yesterday at the Santa Anita Race Track and had a great time. We also enjoyed Disney on Ice on Wed. evening, and today we've enjoyed a quiet day at home.

13 comments:

Dingo said...

Coffee and good friends are often the first step in solving any problem. However, missy, you gave short shrift to the race. I want to hear more!

Prefers Her Fantasy Life said...

It's wonderful that you have good friends. I find that since my separation, people rarely even ask how I'm doing. Had I known I'd be so alone, I might have stuck the damn marriage out.

btw, I'll be in San Francisco April 18-21 with some friends to celebrate my birthday. If you're in the area or can be in the area please join us. You can couch-surf in our room.

Yes, I do have friends. Just noy go-to ones when I'm down.

won said...

Gentle loving thoughts my friend...

MindyMom said...

I'm the same when I'm sick - no coffee so it's a good sign when the desire for it is back. ;)

Glad that you have good friends and even a pro to help you when you need it. Even though we single moms are going it alone doesn't mean we ARE alone. Hang in there.

Tara R. said...

I'm glad you have such wonderful, and understanding friends to help you navigate through all this junk. Good luck with whatever your decision is.

Kori said...

I adore you. I also adore coffee, so I have been feeling sympathy over here for you. And hey, thanks.

dadshouse said...

I have half-time custody of my kids, and I'm not currently in a dating relationship, so all my decisions are my own. It's very empowering, but at the same time, there are situations where I sure wish there was someone in my life to reassure me (or advise me against) about choices I make.

At the end of the day, though, you go with your gut, wisdom, logic, intuition, feeling - whatever. And you learn to accept that some choices will be good, and some not so good, but you do the best you can.

HalfCrazy said...

Hi there!

Single Moms are usually blessed later on. By blessed, I mean wonderful kids and their successful future and all that. It's probably hard but there's something different and enlightening about it.

No, I'm not a single Mom, this observation is completely based on single moms around me LOL.

It's probably much better having a Dad around to help but one can do it too. :)

HalfCrazy said...

Oh and your friends are super awesome for being around. They are real good friends that you should keep for a lifetime! :)

Mark said...

Glad to hear that you are feeling better. You are blessed to have Kori in your life.

EC said...

I'm touched by this post. Thanks.

jenn said...

I'm always second guessing my parenting decisions. It's hard when the outcome is completely my fault. There is no one else to help me see other sides of it.

I'm glad you have such good friends in your life.

Shiona said...

Glad to see you are feeling better. And glad to see you have such awesome friends to help you through.