I have this friend. She happens to be a lesbian. She happens to be a lesbian in love with a woman from England. They met when my friend, B, was an exchange student there. They've been together for a few years now. I know B's girlfriend (N) from N's previous visits, and she's great. They're both educators, smart and compassionate at their jobs and work well with kids.
B has just been detained while trying to visit her girlfriend in England. She's previously applied for a work visa, which was denied, and that showed up when they swiped her visiting visa, so they've detained her, searched her bags, her employer has called to confirm that B is expected back at work in July. Most likely, B will have to turn around and come home.
N is working on getting a US working visa, but, given the state of economy, and given the fact that she's a teacher, has not yet been successful.
B and N could get married in England, but could not come back here to live and work, which is what they want. I haven't investigated enough to know whether or not they could get married in Iowa or one of the other 3 U.S. states that recognize marriage if one of them is not a US citizen, but I do know that said marriage would not be considered valid in California or any of the other states that have denied gay couples equal rights.
Unless we all move to civil unions (which is my preference, but most likely not going to happen), this is why gay marriage has to be recognized on a national level. Vegas weddings are, as we all know, recognized everywhere else in the U.S., in the world, even if the couple is merely drunk.
This makes me crazy.
On another note, I have a new post up at Examiner.