I'm fascinated to find out the results of the current census. Clicking from one link to another, I came across one statistic that said that 51% of women are currently not married, but then I learned that percentage includes women 15-18. So I did some more searching and found that in 2005, fewer than half of all American households contain a married couple, though I don't know if that stat includes spouses current living elsewhere (e.g., military spouses). One of the links (sorry, don't have the URL) stated that unmarried women were an important voting block in last year's election.
What's most fascinating to me is how many of us, however, still feel marginalized.
Most of the books I read and movies I see that feature a single woman (or man) (parent or not) usually end with that person finding their "soul mate." That always lets me down. I wish just once, one of these pop culture stories would end with that singular person living happily ever after alone.
This is not to say, however, that some people shouldn't be married. My parents, for instance, are an enormously happy couple. I know many more.
I just don't think it's for everyone. Whether or not there is "the One" for all of us doesn't necessarily mean that we all find our One, or stay with our One.
I believe in love, fiercely. I just believe that there are so many kinds of love that are often overlooked, but just as magical or beautiful or meaningful as a marriage.
I love Kori. I love Nancy. I love RadDude. And Natalie, and K, and my sister, and my cat, and certain songs and musicals, and so many people that I've met here in one of my passionate loves: the blogosphere. I do not believe that love is too strong a word to use with any of them.
We all know people that aren't married. Some of them are lonely, sure, but even happily married people get lonely sometimes! Loneliness isn't a disease from which someone needs to be cured. It's an emotion, and it comes and goes just like any other. I'll admit, I had it bad a few days ago, but now it's gone. And prior to that, it had been a very long time since I had last felt lonely. More often than not, actually, I find myself wanting to be alone when I can't be!
Whether or not I'm in the majority doesn't really matter. I still have plenty of love to give.