This has become a theme of late: not just from me, but from other single people in my life. It's not directed at any one person and it's not meant to offend. Still, I thought maybe we could just talk about this for a few minutes.
Why do couples always have to sit together? If you're at a party or event where you're going to spend time with other people, why is it necessary that you two sit next to each other? I've been relegated to the children's table sometimes because I'm the odd person out. So just because I'm not coupled, I don't get to talk to the grown-ups? Because, frankly, if I'm just going to spend time with my kids, I could've stayed home!
Appreciate your spouse. Sure, anyone you live with is going to get on your nerves from time to time, I get that, but I know some people who complain about their husband (yes, it's usually the wives) so often that I just want to scream at them: "He's a good guy! WTF is your problem?!?" And frankly, it says more about you if you treat your spouse so disrespectfully. A good rule of thumb might be for every complaint you voice, state at least 2 things you like about your spouse. And if you can't? Well, maybe there's an underlying problem that needs to be addressed.
Please, please, please don't reassure me that I'll meet "the one." It's just flat-out patronizing.
I can't believe this is still an issue in 2010, but it seems that some women still dismiss their single friends for their significant others at every turn. We know and can appreciate that you want to spend time with your man, and sure, you have your family events and your special anniversaries and all that. We get it, and we're happy for you. You think we've turned "bitter" when we stop being there for you as much as we were, but really, you've conveniently forgotten all the times you've flaked on us. You've canceled plans, you've stopped returning phone calls, and you always want to bring your SO. Sometimes, we just want to spend time with you. Eventually, we just stop trying because you've made it clear we simply don't matter anymore. We wish you well, but we've moved on.
Finally, when we admit to moments of loneliness, it's not an invitation to set us up (unless we specifically say so), it's just something we feel from time to time. Don't assume it means we're crying ourselves to sleep every night, just like we don't assume you want to leave your relationship because of one fight. Be the friend you've always been. Offer your ear, your shoulder, and mean it when you say, "we should have drinks sometime." We'd love to!