tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post6218658653064205709..comments2023-09-25T07:18:11.130-07:00Comments on It's All About Balance: Flashback Friday - my Best Friend everAprilhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12051174636017409935noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-3000395182450931692008-04-06T10:02:00.000-07:002008-04-06T10:02:00.000-07:00I'm not bitter, just realistic. What's there to u...I'm not bitter, just realistic. What's there to understand? That he forgave you, and remained your friend unconditionally? I understand that. You're a lucky one. He seems like a wonderful man. Many other women spend the later years of their lives bitter and resentful at their failed marriages and empty love affairs. They don't have anyone. You have a real friend. Not only longer lasting than your other friends, but longer lasting than any of your marriages. My suggestion to you is that rather than "ruining" it, having a relationship with this man would be even more fruitful and just as long lasting. I think it's a shame that it's already been 22 years, but maybe it's never too late to try. <BR/><BR/>Don't you think it's a little mean to compare this long time friend who has stuck with you through everything to the one night stands and short term marriages with men who are long gone? Admit it, we all know its true - it was a mistake not to have married him in the first place. You can try to rationalize it now, but it's still a mistake and he's still the same man.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-8860196409083159082008-04-06T09:25:00.000-07:002008-04-06T09:25:00.000-07:00HugABug - I think you'll have a great time.MM - I'...HugABug - I think you'll have a great time.<BR/><BR/>MM - I'm glad you liked it!<BR/><BR/>KM - When Harry Met Sally is a great flick, but just that.<BR/><BR/>Maria - sure you're kidding...mmhmmm...<BR/><BR/>Single - Yeah, I've had those kinds of friends, too. I've been very lucky with K that our friendship has survived as much as it has. <BR/><BR/>Anonymous - someone sounds bitter! I'm sorry you can't quite understand it, but I suppose it's to be expected.Aprilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12051174636017409935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-40357537611441707092008-04-06T09:01:00.000-07:002008-04-06T09:01:00.000-07:00Rather than being a beautiful friendship, I find i...Rather than being a beautiful friendship, I find it quite sad. It's a story I've heard a thousand times. Guy courts girl, girl rejects guy, guy stays true friend, girl fails miserably at her relationships, guy stays true friend, girl is thankful for true friend. There's an obvious reason why the guy only wants to be friends anymore. You broke his heart one too many times. Like many other women, you just happen to be terrible at relationships. If you really love him, you should be begging him to take you back.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-89299642012492428782008-04-05T18:29:00.000-07:002008-04-05T18:29:00.000-07:00I think girls can be friends with guys a lot easie...I think girls can be friends with guys a lot easier than guys can be "just friends" with girls. While it never be, I think most guys always have that "What if" in the back of their minds.<BR/><BR/>I thought time and time again "Oh, he is just my friend!" only to find out the "friend" has wanted something more. Sometimes it was good, sometimes not so good. ;)<BR/><BR/>Nonetheless, none of my male friendships have made it to the 22-year-mark! Congrats on that, and having a truly awesome friend.Single Working Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17416113006148466998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-5187398585549909592008-04-05T18:18:00.000-07:002008-04-05T18:18:00.000-07:00I can't be friends with a guy without wanting to b...I can't be friends with a guy without wanting to bang him. That's why Jason doesn't let me have any male friends.<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>I'm kidding!!!!Maríahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11222253058280821035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-49460057453221520862008-04-05T17:50:00.000-07:002008-04-05T17:50:00.000-07:00What a wonderful post about a very, very special f...What a wonderful post about a very, very special friendship. Friends like him are very hard to come by; and it's easy to see why you would want to treasure it for what it is and not risk "spoiling" it with a romantic relationship. <BR/><BR/>Mind you, there's no guarantee it would be spoiled either; I mean, never say never, right? Reminds me of "When harry met Sally". Cliche, yes, but I'm sure it happens all the time.<BR/><BR/>This was a GREAT post!Karen MEGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10834425321020756655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-53742668781115587862008-04-05T02:21:00.000-07:002008-04-05T02:21:00.000-07:00What a beautiful friendship you two have! I love t...What a beautiful friendship you two have! I love this flashback, it really put me in a wistful mood, thinking about some of the precious friends I have in my life. Sigh... Thanks for blogging about this. :)Tui Sniderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18145811441026282832noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-16150408192022021772008-04-04T22:48:00.000-07:002008-04-04T22:48:00.000-07:00That sounds like a beautiful and special relations...That sounds like a beautiful and special relationship. How wonderful for you and your girls to have him in your lives. And even more wonderful for him to have you in his. <BR/><BR/>I have to admit I'd never heard of Into the Woods, so I looked it up in Netflix. It looks like a great movie and I added it to my list. Thanks for the recomendation!hugabug1https://www.blogger.com/profile/17528133207236454685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-33187472526506482362008-04-04T19:46:00.000-07:002008-04-04T19:46:00.000-07:00LSHM & Tara - I totally agree! He's not my only ma...LSHM & Tara - I totally agree! He's not my only male friend, either.<BR/><BR/>Kori - He is a great catch :)<BR/><BR/>CableGirl & OhMommy- I think all life's lessons are in Into the Woods. I may have even written about it - I'll check my archives.<BR/><BR/>A Bright Future - of course I've wondered! But I always come back to, if things hadn't gone the way they did, I wouldn't have my 2 beautiful girls, and K agrees that they're totally worth it!<BR/><BR/>Jeff - who knew you were such a softie :) And K & I still joke about it, but since it hasn't happened by now (when we've had ample opportunity), I highly doubt it. We love each other, but we're both still waiting for a "special someone" to sweep us off our feet. Our friendship has taught me the value of another kind of love.Aprilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12051174636017409935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-45110022457892638952008-04-04T18:43:00.000-07:002008-04-04T18:43:00.000-07:00Into the Woods?That is my all time favorite show. ...Into the Woods?<BR/><BR/>That is my all time favorite show. I puffy heart it,<BR/><BR/>GREAT post!OHmommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12712111068636100187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-21564110687127670022008-04-04T13:41:00.000-07:002008-04-04T13:41:00.000-07:00Why do I think the curtain hasn't closed on this a...Why do I think the curtain hasn't closed on this act yet? ;-)<BR/><BR/>Great story, and very nicely written.Jeff and Charli Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13868852480996815442noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-17207239684158397352008-04-04T12:07:00.000-07:002008-04-04T12:07:00.000-07:00What a wonderful post about a truly wonderful frie...What a wonderful post about a truly wonderful friendship.<BR/><BR/>(The romantic in me wants the two of you together, though!)<BR/><BR/>Do you ever indulge in the what if's about that Saturday night?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-24857869697478505102008-04-04T11:32:00.000-07:002008-04-04T11:32:00.000-07:00No rule says that a girl's best friend can't be ma...No rule says that a girl's best friend can't be male... sounds like you two have a great friendship going.Tara R.https://www.blogger.com/profile/02993625193184914299noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-89498668744492458612008-04-04T10:46:00.000-07:002008-04-04T10:46:00.000-07:00There is nothing more important than a good friend...There is nothing more important than a good friend who is always there for you and for whom you are always there. Great story. I'm glad you and K are able to live in the same city again and be there for each other.<BR/><BR/>BTW, I LOVE <I>Into the Woods</I>. It may be my all time favorite show. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-57243519451147916662008-04-04T10:24:00.000-07:002008-04-04T10:24:00.000-07:00You know, he sounds perfect-for ME! hahahahahha, ...You know, he sounds perfect-for ME! hahahahahha, laughing hysterically here.... :) Great post, April!Korihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17523892197119604721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-68956789613999396382008-04-04T10:18:00.000-07:002008-04-04T10:18:00.000-07:00You know, there are people out there who just SWEA...You know, there are people out there who just SWEAR that menand women who aren't gay can't ever really be "friends." But it's just not true! I have lots of hetero male friends but who I never wanted to be more-than that with.KGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10236206776336550381noreply@blogger.com