tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post8512087176102207402..comments2023-09-25T07:18:11.130-07:00Comments on It's All About Balance: Parents as PeopleAprilhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12051174636017409935noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-45071870878357527112008-08-22T09:47:00.000-07:002008-08-22T09:47:00.000-07:00I agree with you. I think it's important for the ...I agree with you. I think it's important for the kids to know that I am a woman, a mother, a daughter, a sister, an employee, and even a romantic partner from time to time. That we are a part of a greater community made of up responsibility and also fun. It lets them know that my world is made up of many parts, them being the most important.<BR/><BR/>I took one of my kids to work with me one day. He was excited. I had time on all the PR folks' schedules so they could tell them what they did and where they went to college. They loved him. He came into my office and I let him do something on the computer I normally did. I showed him some of the stuff I did.<BR/><BR/>At the end of the day, I asked him what he thought I did and he said something to the effect, "You do a lot of paperwork and talk on the phone a lot." He was about 14 then. Know what? He summed it up beautifully.Me. Here. Right now.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17340392061207298502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-90093877913495912132008-08-20T23:41:00.000-07:002008-08-20T23:41:00.000-07:00I loved going to work with my Mom. I was able to s...I loved going to work with my Mom. I was able to see her as a leader, confident, respected, capable. It was so important for children to see their mothers this way and not just as "mothers".<BR/><BR/>I think Julianne Moore's view comes from a state of privilege to which most of us can't relate.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-38423996525718480992008-08-19T22:22:00.000-07:002008-08-19T22:22:00.000-07:00I agree with you. That is pretty ironic that she w...I agree with you. That is pretty ironic that she wold shelter her children like that when the very industry she's in does the exact opposite. That just makes it that much harder to maintain. I also agree with the actions speaking louder than words. <BR/>Great post!Shionahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12492147249152256505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-51264788635789984992008-08-19T13:58:00.000-07:002008-08-19T13:58:00.000-07:00I think this is going to require a fuller response...I think this is going to require a fuller response than I can give in a comment - you've inspired an upcoming post, I suspect :-).<BR/><BR/>I think Julianne Moore is a very good actress, but I totally disagree with her about kids knowing their parents as <I>just</I> parents. I'm not sure that some kids are that <I>interested</I> in their who their parents are as people, but that's not the point. We are so much more than just our roles, and the people who are closest to us need to know that.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for a great post!Florindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09789402061034734894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-86355539087017020452008-08-19T13:31:00.000-07:002008-08-19T13:31:00.000-07:00One word: Bravo.One word: Bravo.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02362687820368214420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-31098475384120910462008-08-19T12:30:00.000-07:002008-08-19T12:30:00.000-07:00I think you make wonderful points. I couldn't agre...I think you make wonderful points. I couldn't agree more - they need to see more than just the parenting side of the parent. They need to see the PERSON that the parent is.Maríahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11222253058280821035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-57277811710318963442008-08-19T11:05:00.000-07:002008-08-19T11:05:00.000-07:00Fantastic post! And I couldn't agree more. IMO.....Fantastic post! And I couldn't agree more. IMO...kids need to see the responsibility, passion, dedication, and discipline that goes with not only being a parent but of being a productive member of society. They need to know that they are NOT the center of the universe and that their parents have lives outside of being parents. Whether that's through a career or other interests. I'm a SAHM but they are very interested in hearing about where I used to work and where their father now works. They love hearing about their dad's day at work and we feel it's important.Mama Smurfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18156035813578322910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-6273355171307720842008-08-19T10:48:00.000-07:002008-08-19T10:48:00.000-07:00You know, it's funny, but I didn't really, truly r...You know, it's funny, but I didn't really, truly realize that my parents were people until I had my children and realized that I, as a parent, am still a person. Weird, right? Anyway, since finally realizing this I plan on really striving to make sure that my children see me as a whole person and not just a parent.LunaNikhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13981677669711596784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-39579872771890834902008-08-19T10:29:00.000-07:002008-08-19T10:29:00.000-07:00Given the nature of her line of work, I can excuse...Given the nature of her line of work, I can excuse that way of thinking more in her than I might in others. If I were in her shoes, I might want to shelter my kids from the hectic and pressured scene of the film industry. But in general, I do think it's a testimony to the growing gulf between parents and their children, that some kids respond with blank stupidity when asked what their parents do.FreedomFirsthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06758904672151505999noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-23167819553551467062008-08-19T09:38:00.000-07:002008-08-19T09:38:00.000-07:00Wow, she comes from a completely different parenti...Wow, she comes from a completely different parenting world than I do. My son knows I work on computers, he knows my office, he knows my coworkers. It helps that his daycare is literally across the street from where I work, but even before he went there, he knew my office. He even has *favorite* coworkers of mine. <BR/><BR/>I really disagree with her, if she thinks the only thing she has to offer her kids is her unconditional love, then her children are missing out on a lot of wonderful things.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-31576570381563896792008-08-19T08:47:00.000-07:002008-08-19T08:47:00.000-07:00I agree too. I want kids to know of important thin...I agree too. I want kids to know of important things that happen with me or hubby. we still give all our attention but its good to celebrate things too.Julie@My5monkeyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17861113387434481518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-89540548416622909072008-08-19T08:42:00.000-07:002008-08-19T08:42:00.000-07:00I think, too, that there is a difference in the wa...I think, too, that there is a difference in the way single parents feel as opposed to married or otherwise attached parents-because I think our kids learn early on that they are not only a part of the team, but a very, very important part-and that while unconditional love is a given, there are also responsibilities that HAVE to be fulfilled in order for us to provide more than that love. My kids have also been here to my office; they know my co-workers and my boss, they know the basics of what I do, and they very clearly recall the crap jobs and the ramen noodles and the worry about whether or not we would have power. So they see the differences brought about by hard work and perseverance; I NEED them to know that. You are right on target with this post, April!Korihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17523892197119604721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211674678201251588.post-4466426691524375522008-08-19T08:30:00.000-07:002008-08-19T08:30:00.000-07:00I couldn't agree more!!! Very well written, April...I couldn't agree more!!! Very well written, April!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com